Heartache

Sometimes I hate being right about something. Usually this occurs when being right involves pain, either for myself or for someone I know and care about.

Warning someone about the dangers involved with something can be tricky. Here's my list of reasons why this is so:

1) The decision to listen to advice is entirely up to the person receiving the advice, not the one giving it.
2) No matter how much you want to protect someone, there are just some lessons that you have to learn on your own.
3) You never know how much someone is willing to risk. It might be worth it to them. After all, sometimes the biggest risks have the biggest rewards.
4) The heart wants what it wants. If you can convince your head to prevail, you're more logical than I will ever be.

I'm sure there are more, but those are the ones I find particularly applicable these days.

But telling someone "I told you so" doesn't lessen any of the pain they might feel when a situation turns sour on them. Actually, it could potentially make it worse, and I can pretty much guarantee that there is absolutely no need to make someone feel any worse. That's just mean.

So to one of my friends who is hurting right now...

I'm sorry. I'm sorry that you're hurting. I'm sorry that things didn't work out like you hoped and probably dreamed about. That really sucks. Other people might try to say "I told you so," and I've heard a few people say that already, but I had really hoped it wouldn't work out this way. I hoped that you wouldn't get your heart broken. I hoped that you would be happy, because you seemed really happy. That's what I want for you.

You're a really amazing person. You have such a good heart and a goofy personality, and you're just lovable, plain and simple. We've been friends for a long time and I hope we always will be. I'm glad that you're back and back in my life on a more consistent basis.

Don't beat yourself up over this. Don't blame yourself. You never know what might have happened if you would have stayed. We can't change the past, we can only learn from it and move forward. You don't know what will happen now. Maybe something even better is waiting around the corner.

I love you and think you're great. Let me know if you need anything. I'm here for you.